At best you can expect some verbal version of the list above. 100 Reasons to Keep on Living: Sunrises and sunsets. Who in blazes are you to tell people their life is not their own? This reminds me way to much of counsellors, psychologists, even psychiatrists who will "prescribe" without truly seeing the patient (lots of bad mental health professionnals out there). None of us get out here alive, but if we’ve known or *could* know a modicum of happiness or peace, I hope we’ll go the full course. It is our challenge to find beauty, even—and especially—when the opposite occurs. That's akin to telling them to live as a slave and accept it and to be bound in some non-existent way to how they impact others by their own decision to stop being unhappy...and you don't think that would be enough in itself to push someone over the edge? If everyone is going to die , how does it matter if one ends life a little earlier. Our lives are not only our own. It is our challenge to find beauty, even—and especially—when the opposite occurs. "there are friends that are more than happy to be that shoulder to lean on - I have been that friend myself" = In the meantime, I haven't lost all hope for one more peaceful moment or improving my life in some way. That has nothing to do with actual application. Having read some of the opinions , I am inclined to be negative about the concept of life. A certain strain of weed works well for me though. Medicine is not and never is actually the answer, the answer is through people close to the person, only family and friends can truly help. This list is weak and will have very little benefit for those who are on the edge of suicide. I have a Gay male friend who, along with his partner, though they have all the "trappings" of our culture: house, they're married, both have great careers and make good money etc. Some people have had such pain and suffering, they question living. They, (a person in crisis) did not really indicate this was going to be. While it's a well-known fact that many youth flirt with the idea of committing suicide, adults hesitate to speak about the problem openly. Alcohol has saved my life a thousand times, takes the edge off, gets me through til tomorrow, so far. I have an opinion based on fact and personal experience. To live is to look at ourselves in the mirror and discover a message of love in our own eyes. If we don't live it, we won't know what we’re missing. I get that it may be a play on words, but it's a gross misrepresentation at best. ... 39 Reasons Living In Maine Ruins You For Life. So there it is. Menu. I think perhaps making the list more actionable would help. Maybe much of the first 50 years sucked, but the optimist in me would like to think there may be at least an ounce of good in the next 1, 5, 10, 20, more? The choice is accepting you wanting to kill yourself is an appropriate response to living in a pathological culture or not. I have to say that alcohol has saved my life a thousand times, as Eric Clapton said, the only reason I didn't kill myself was because I knew if I was dead I could never have another drink, the docs and shrinks drone on and on about how alcohol ruins lives, but they never think about how alcohol and other drugs save lives, by easing the pain. I'd love people posting on there. None of them really had a reason to take their own life, but they did. When time after time you try and fail and feel like shit, you don't want to bealso feeling guilty about not feeling thankfull you were born or your suffering is just a lesson. Just like courtesy is contagious. The sound of a baby’s laugh. You'd be amazed how quickly your "friends" will run for the hills if you go to them for genuine help with a real problem. Can I use any of yours (made into my own)? Everyday the world tells us we should be something or someone else other than who we are. So many despise this article who are chronically suicidal. Interestingly it seems you have unwittingly (in the most ignorant sense) provided a key reason why so many never seek therapy or for many that do, why they end up with a "14th reason". No, every suicidal person is not mentally ill. I take about seven meds, and have a lot of sleep issues, but travel is usually doable, I promise. Use this to create a list of your core values, which … This is one gift I won't be bestowing on any potential beings. You should call one, possibly cry yourself to sleep over how vague, disconnected, and patronizing they are then awake to take charge of initiating changes to provide a real service for that entirely different category of people who need it. Comedy works for me as well, as does forcefully disconnecting myself from social media and horrible news sites, full of propaganda and sensationalism and fear. Making an effort to deal with problems can make us aware of how strong we really are. Suicide is the only freedom we have, to end your fucking little meaningless live in dignity and peace. Life's challenges don't exist only to upset us—they exist so that we understand ourselves better and get to know who we really are.Â, To live is to discover something about ourselves of which we were not aware.Â. The risk of suicide increases dramatically when kids and teens have access to firearms at home, and nearly 60 percent of all suicides in the United States are committed with a gun. Â. And I cannot even afford to get proper treatment. Don’t take it personally, but I do suggest you think about it. We can learn something from every moment, good or bad.Â. Our primal brain makes the urge to live stronger than any other counter emotion. What may be "laughable" to you is in no way "laughable" to me. It affects a whole family and becomes almost contagious. Psychology Today © 2020 Sussex Publishers, LLC, Just a Thimbleful of Alcohol Could Impair Driving Ability, Covid-19 Pandemic Measures and Substance Abuse, The Rise of COVID-19 Vaccine Selfies on Social Media, "Since Hanna could not find her reasons...". So sad all they needed was ............? Splashing in puddles. And that has inspired Alan Zweig's documentary feature 15 Reasons To Live, which takes up that list as a call to adventure. And an invitation to suicide, it would seem. Yeah, I just read through this list and felt worse then when I did before lmao, Your reply was amazing though, and was a REAL mood booster, and great laugh (and thats the best medicine I guess) this list was easily the most patronizing thing i've read in along time...is this person even a real pyschiatrist? This charming suburb’s real estate market success has always been attributed to a number of good reasons. I get that it may be a play on words, but it's a gross misrepresentation at best. Suicide, therefore indicates the human is evolved , as its cortical brain can overpower the primal brain. If I could not drink water and not experience dehydration, if I could not sleep and not feel tired, if I could not clean my house and have a clean house.... That’s not the way in which the world works. Besides, anyone can write something vague and make it sound beautiful. Really hit home on exploration or something. I'm waiting around until my parents die before going through with it, approximately another 20 years. If I could have no more romantic rejections and no more wish to find an intimate partner, I would. Cooking helps too. Smiling Relieves Stress . I'm guessing here, but I feel like you haven't seen the show or read the books, and if you have you paid no attention to what the story was truly about. May hope exceed desperation. And statements like "We are the designers of our life" could not be uttered by someone who has ever existed, like millions of people all over the world do, with no meaning or control over their lives, trapped in endless cycles of physical, emotional and financial crisis. Traveling the world. Find another career. When you have no job, nofamily, friends, or anyone who care, what is the point? Suicide, therefore indicates the human is evolved , as its cortical brain can overpower the primal brain. There's a new Ketamine drug coming out soon. Why? Death is waiting for each of us anyway; why call on it before our time. I take about seven meds, and have a lot of sleep issues, but travel is usually doable, I promise. Now that I also have rheumatoid arthritis it hurts, physically, all the time, the only thing that takes the pain away is narcotics and sleep, waking up hurts, so why not just go to sleep keep on sleeping? Fuck you. Good job proving the point of the comment you were just arguing against. Really hit home on exploration or something. Fighting mental illness stigma also works to improve my mood, a little bit. Whenever depression sits in, then psychological and/or psychiatric treatment is necessary. Can't think of anymore.... so looking for some for myself. When time after time you try and fail and feel like shit, you don't want to bealso feeling guilty about not feeling thankfull you were born or your suffering is just a lesson. It is followed by New Zealand, Finland, Switzerland, Denmark, and Sweden. In most cases, however, the fantasy of committing suicide ends there, often with an understanding that life is a gift that should not be taken for granted. If you or someone you know is at risk of suicide, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255). There are predisposing factors to .................and the precipitating factor to suicide. Alcohol has saved my life a thousand times, takes the edge off, gets me through til tomorrow, so far. For one, suicidal people are probably not jsut thinking about the vague concepts of death. We understand that there are many reasons to feel that life has no meaning—among them, not being able to compete in a society that insists on constant productivity, not meeting personal expectations, or not meeting the expectations of parents to be successful. Many men have prayed for death I feel like no matter how much training a medical professional may have, it does help those truly thinking of committing suicide because all the medicine in the world will not treat someone who truly believes that the only answer is to end it all. who knows how the next day will be , I read some rosy comments on missing out on opportunity. And this article further proves my position. Besides, anyone can write something vague and make it sound beautiful. I've seen more impressive suggestions from uneducated people with a practical knowledge of people. Finding some pharmaceutical MDMA to take in a therapeutic setting would be nice, but I don't live in California. On average, we get 71 trips around the sun. None of us get out here alive, but if we’ve known or *could* know a modicum of happiness or peace, I hope we’ll go the full course. We live because one day in early childhood we realise that we are alive and already have lots of reasons to go on living. Personally, the one about living for others, although it makes sense in theory, can really trigger people, as other commenters said. For one, suicidal people are probably not jsut thinking about the vague concepts of death. Only a mentally ill person could adapt, could accommodate, could so proudly function (Donald Trump) in such a pathological society. Can I use any of yours (made into my own)? Very weak list, mainly for its lack of substance and presumptuousness. Why? But this is bad. That has nothing to do with actual application. And remember all the people in relationships who hate each other's guts and are miserable isn't unhelpful. A reason for being. Which I suppose is possible in a list format (anything can be done well). Smiling not only helps to prevent us from looking tired, worn down, and overwhelmed but can actually help reduce stress.. While friends don't miraculously help you feel better about your situation, and neither may your family, the source of support - in merely knowing you're not alone is helpful for many. Oppression is horrible. who knows how the next day will be , I read some rosy comments on missing out on opportunity. St. John's Wart + Wild Lettuce help some, too, but someday the time will come. It's usually the people close to them that actually have an affect. So I’m not totally sure if speaking about what is enjoyable will actually work. And the adults themselves aren't immune: Like teens, many adults contemplate suicide when feeling hopeless. My advice to you? The majority of youth confront the idea of death and, at some point or another, fantasize about how they will die. I often stay indoors, but I do enjoy going outside, although rarely would I plan to and purposely by myself head out the door. While I am sure your comments are specific to you - I just want to point out that your feelings are not universal to everyone. Good job proving the point of the comment you were just arguing against. This is one gift I won't be bestowing on any potential beings. Still, the statistics are overwhelming. I called the hotline and apparently made the person on the other end of the line flustered. I do not understand why anyone enjoys living. We can learn something from every moment, good or bad. In the end though, it is acceptance that has helped me the most. The important thing is to accept that help. But it doesn't have to be that way, with acceptance. Hospitals don't help when it comes to mental illnesses because they just medicate. This reminds me way to much of counsellors, psychologists, even psychiatrists who will "prescribe" without truly seeing the patient (lots of bad mental health professionnals out there). What is ahead of us? I don't know. There are reasons to live, not to be interviend during a crisis. SO scum like you can tell me that life is beautiful, and worth something?! And it's impossible to be depressed when you're on the Big K! How much of this painful "gift" are we supposed to endure? If life, which includes heartbreaks and pain, is a gift, then I don't want it, I want to end it, I just broke the mirror in my bathroom and I'm about to slit my throat nobody understands the fucking pain. But when I'm feeling like ending my own life, which is frequent and current, the world looks ugly to me, music becomes an incomprehensible irritant, my children strangers. 13 Reasons Why is a Netflix series based on a book by Jay Asher. Making an effort to deal with problems can make us aware of how strong we really are. And statements like "We are the designers of our life" could not be uttered by someone who has ever existed, like millions of people all over the world do, with no meaning or control over their lives, trapped in endless cycles of physical, emotional and financial crisis. When you’re present in the moment more, you realize that most things you do because you are forced to attend to them or face the pain of the alternative. Symptoms were there, but nobody could see that. Some, like me are disabled from a physical illness suffering from chronic physical pain and discomfort which leaves a person socially isolated and in poverty. this concept would make no sense to someone considering suicide. If I could retire early without savings at the ripe age of 33 I would. I'm looking for reasons for my new blog elizareasonstolive I do not understand why there’s nonstop BS to live with. People do not necessarily love life and may suffer depression, wish to end their suffering or simply do not see the point of living. Although in theory applicable to people, and a good idea for making a list of thirteen, I suggest to actually reach people, perhaps use some examples. My psychiatrist did not take me seriously. With wit and ingenuity Hempel explores a wide array of disquieting themes, from the listlessness of an aimless adulthood to the dread provoked by a close friend’s death. But no man ever prayed for pain. While I am sure your comments are specific to you - I just want to point out that your feelings are not universal to everyone. The majority of youth confront the idea of death and, at some point or another, fantasize about how they will die. I’m sick of this life, sick of the nonstop problems, and I can’t even get the help I need. Or the cold. Since Hannah could not find her own reasons, I'll leave you with my "13 Reasons Why...to Live.". Or just make no sense for them, if they don’t have anyone. I live alone. The last thing suicidal person want's to hear that life is a gift and you are here to learn. I am RN including Psychiatric Nursing. I stopped drinking because it was a bit too much of a good thing. We should take care of ourselves because we are important to others—even though we sometimes forget it. That quote makes no sense because there is no sense living if my life is fucked up so I should just die and if there isn't a good reason to live then I'll just be down in the ground. Many people are stuck in situations where the items on this list are not applicable, or won't be applicable for such a long time, the person is too tired to wait it out. “You're trying to find it. Our primal brain makes the urge to live stronger than any other counter emotion. "Yeah, let me remind you how nobody likes you". As an aside to this, you people really need to get a grip on how dangerous those suicide hotlines are for people on the edge. Am sure that if they could find a way that they would prefer not to have done what they did. When hope even marginally exceeds desperation, life prevails. Chris, I am all in favor of "death with dignity," and while we had no choice getting shat into this world, I concur we should have a choice on how we leave it. Even more, who knows, perhaps you have family or friends that are willing to be there for you, they just need to be reached out to. Nobody really knows a reason why. And " If death gives meaning to life, then consider it, but in order to learn to live better." Getting well enough to travel with a group is helpful. Comedy works for me as well, as does forcefully disconnecting myself from social media and horrible news sites, full of propaganda and sensationalism and fear. Your suggestion of getting help is great — for people that have a lot of money or insurance that covers it. Then what's the point of suffering through yet another day of the same? Hospitals don't help when it comes to mental illnesses because they just medicate. The risk of suicide increases dramatically when kids and teens have access to firearms at home, and nearly 60 percent of all suicides in the United States are committed with a gun. No, every suicidal person is not mentally ill. Many men have prayed for death Maybe being held accountable in some public fashion is what it will take for you to recognize the disservice you do both to your profession and to those that are in need of said professions help with this kind of useless material. And it doesn't help that I have depression Either. Finding beauty in the world. To even think some of the garbage in your list shows depressed people just how little you overpriced "professionals" actually care at all. Nothing brings me down quicker. They are thinking of SPECIFIC things and triggers. Just as the bad waves can sometimes show no mercy, the good ones come along and refresh us. But this is bad. years ahead. If those that care about them can't be happy for the end of their suffering, I'd argue that they didn't really feel empathy about it in the first place and their desire for that person to stay alive is purely selfish. I do not understand your comment. Suicide is the third-leading cause of death for 15- to 24-year-olds, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). Life is not static; it's in constant movement, much like the waves of the ocean. Shure, I will call a hotline. Because...because, in reality, there aren't any people who are born with reasons to live. Yeah, I just read through this list and felt worse then when I did before lmao, Your reply was amazing though, and was a REAL mood booster, and great laugh (and thats the best medicine I guess) this list was easily the most patronizing thing i've read in along time...is this person even a real pyschiatrist? Then dont tell me life is worth something, because its obviously not (you woudnt let thousands of children starve then! Which I suppose is possible in a list format (anything can be done well). Would they understand then? This is such a pile of new-age upbeat crap that I don't want to begin dissecting each point to show just how wrong it is. However the value systems across the world condemn the concept of suicide because it is an escape from this gruelling game , which in the end , has no meaning - other than furthering the race. Fight, I say, fight to your last breath, to a society that has convinced you you are wrong and must be cured. So sad all they needed was ............? Life is an invitation to learn. Realizing how the world has manipulated me into either/or thinking regarding this is productive, and helpful. A reason to say that it's okay to be here. Ana Nogales, what is your phd in? It strokes you ego does it not?! TOO MUCH THINKING! Great! Or just make no sense for them, if they don’t have anyone. No its worthless, see people die, in Syria, Afrika, in wars?! ", Sometimes, depression does not let us see the beauty of life. holy heck... it's like being talked down to and shamed for even daring to consider Life is anything other then some devine gift that must be cherished at all costs, this whole article is just gonna be one big YIKES from me, but thank you, nunyas for posting this comment (which was the real help stuff here). When a person is actually and truly considering suicide, they aren't going to call the suicide hotline or 911. note: this is a reply to the original article, not any particular reply, sorry. Or if they’re inside all the time, perhaps something else, you get the idea. Why Fans of Horror Movies May Be More Resilient. Considered one of the so-called four pillars of the European Union, this freedom allows all EU citizens to live, work and travel in other member states. Why Fans of Horror Movies May Be More Resilient. 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